Highlights
- Moving in with in-laws presents unique challenges, requiring understanding and clear communication to ensure a harmonious living environment.
- It’s crucial to establish clear guidelines for the use of common areas and belongings and to approach any conflicts with patience and open dialogue.
- Avoiding intervention in pre-existing family dynamics and seeking amicable conflict resolution can pave the way for peaceful coexistence with your in-laws.
Every relocation brings some stress. But when you are moving in with other people even close ones there is something different here. Your life after the relocation will alter – it will not be like you are moving from one apartment or house to another by yourself or only with your family.
When you move in with in-laws living with them will be different. Here we will discuss how to organize your move, the most important things to be ready with and what you can expect from living with your in-laws.
Living with in-laws
You may decide to live with your in-laws for a number of reasons. You or someone from your in-laws may have financial difficulties and living together could save you some money.
Any of you may be downsizing and needing to cut down on your expenses. Another possible reason is that there may be someone sick who requires special care and the presence of a family member for more time than a healthy person.
Whatever the reason for your decision, moving in with your in-laws and living with them will certainly have its ups and downs. Just like any other person, both you and your in-laws may need some more privacy once in a while. But that shouldn’t worry you.
Think of moving with in-laws as an opportunity to help each other more and get to know each other better. If you are late from work or exhausted, maybe your mother-in-law can prepare the dinner. And when the washing machine breaks down, maybe your father-in-law will be able to fix it for you.
Still, there are certain things that you should take care of before you start living with your in-laws. One of those things that are a good start for a good relationship when living with the inlaws in the future is the move-in process.
Moving in with my in-laws
Talk to each other. As you are planning the move, talk to your partner about what life will be like in your new home. It would be good for both of you to be aware of the habits of your in-laws. Talk to your in-laws as well and discuss with them how they see your life together. Try to come up with some clear rules for everyone – both adults and children.
In this way, every person in the household will know what their duties are and life in your new home will be more pleasant and calm together. For example, you can take turns cleaning the common areas like the bathroom, living room and kitchen. It is important for all members in this new household to have their little space for privacy once in a while as well.
Check which area in the home will be for you or which room and plan what to take. If you were living in another home with your partner or your partner and kids, make a revision of the items you have. What will you need?
The rest can be disposed of in many ways. – How to get rid of unwanted items? Moving in with in-laws to save money is a common thing happening and you can take advantage of this opportunity. If there are items you wish to keep discuss with your in-laws where you can put them. Other things that are of no such emotional or financial value to you – can be left behind.
Find local movers and arrange the moving date with them- ask us for a quote for free at 1 (800) 680-6439 or use the moving estimator. If you will be relocating to your in-laws’ home, then maybe they can help you move in – they can meet the moving truck and help unload and unpack.
If you will be moving with in-laws to a house or apartment with them as well, then you can hire one moving company to transport everybody’s items and unpack them. Hiring a professional relocation company, in this case, is compulsory because everyone will be busy arranging the move, packing, notifying institutions, etc.
After the relocation
Clear up the use of common areas and household goods. That includes common objects in the house. Decide who will bring in what. If there are things to buy, you can discuss together what is best, make a list of the items to buy and go shopping.
Distribute the area in your home in a way so that everyone will be able to get in their basic personal objects at least. Talk to each other about this and clear it up. Otherwise, there may be conflicts in the family and no one will feel happy in an unfriendly environment.
Be patient and show understanding. Now that your spouse is back with his or her parents, you may notice a different attitude toward your in-laws. This is because he or she may feel like a kid at home again. Besides, your partner has a certain relationship with his/ her folks that you should probably stay out of. If you see them arguing about something, let them have their discussion.
If you cannot bring peace to the situation then maybe you shouldn’t involve yourself with it. It is a good idea for you as well to try to avoid arguments. If there is a persistent behavior, manners, a way of speaking, etc. then it would be good to discuss it. Living with your in-laws may not be easy for them either but if everybody gives it a try, it will work out well for everyone eventually.
Hopefully, these tips should help you make your move-in with in-laws easier and then life with them too. Don’t get discouraged if unexpected problems or difficulties occur. There is a way out of every situation as long as you really care about each other. Good luck with your move.
Frequently Asked Questions:
There can be various reasons for someone to decide to live with their in-laws. It could be due to financial difficulties, downsizing to save money, or if a family member requires special care due to health reasons.
Communication is key. Discuss with your partner and in-laws about living habits, set clear rules for household responsibilities, and decide on the distribution of tasks. Also, determine which areas or rooms will be allocated for your personal use and decide on what items to bring, keep, or discard. Engaging professional movers can also be beneficial to streamline the process.
It’s important to clearly define the use of common areas and household goods, be patient and understanding, and address any persistent behaviors or issues through open communication. Avoid intervening in the pre-existing dynamics between your spouse and their parents, and always seek ways to resolve conflicts amicably for a peaceful coexistence.
If you and another family member are moving around the same time then we offer a discount for group bookings. It is always worth asking a removal company this question.